How To Win Her Back – Don’t Play Games
Monday, August 1st, 2011So, you blew it and now you want to learn how to win your ex back. One thing you need to remember is that this is not a game and she is not a prize. Sure, learning how to get her back and then pulling it off will feel like a victory, but it should be looked upon as a reprieve. If you lost her once, you can do it again. So, take heed to some advice on how to get your ex back.
First of all, try to define the reasons why your girlfriend decided to leave you. Sometimes they are quite obvious and this step doesn’t require much. However, if those reasons are not that clear for you, you need to do a couple of things.
The best solution would be, of course, to talk with your ex. However, sometimes it might be wiser to approach her friends first. Your ex girlfriend has probably talked about your break up to her friends, and they may be able to give you some answers.
Now, let’s assume that whatever you did was not unforgivable, and hope is not totally lost. Next you have to face the situation and admit your wrong doings. Make no excuses for yourself.
If possible, sit down with your ex and discuss the issues, and what specifically you have done to cause her to break-up with you. Now, you may need to allow some time for her to cool off and reflect on your relationship before you approach her.
At first, the best option could be talking through her friend. She or he can act as a mediator between you and her.
Never act arrogant or macho. This is the surefire way to expel her for good. Be gentle and move slowly. Listen carefully what she wants to say to you. Be sincere with your apology.
Try to choose some neutral place to talk with her. Don’t speak with her at your own home. Some cafeteria or quiet park might be appropriate. Also, if you believe that your conversation could become heated, it is wise to meet in a place where you can let your emotions flow.
However, it is important that you keep it cool and don’t become defensive. Of course you also can show your emotions because it only shows that you still care about her. Just don’t start yelling and blaming at her about your break up.
The key is to listen, acknowledge and confirm what it is that caused the break-up. It’s not to listen, point out and blame her for your behavior.
If you want to know how to get her back then you need to be the one that acknowledges and pledges change. After all, you are going to her and not vice versa.

